Love Triangle
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Why do people cheat in relationships? I see it every day. Everywhere. To the point where I ask, why don’t people cheat? Because I do see that in some places as well. Not often but I do see it.
I can’t even count the number of married men I know that cheat on their wives. Heck, they cheat on their girlfriends that they’re cheating on their wives with. Girlfriends for their girlfriends.
It has become the norm.
When I ask those that do cheat “why?” they say “it’s nice to change sometimes.”
Sadly that answer never really answered the question. Not for me anyway. There are lots of things that feel “nice” yet we don’t do them. The feeling I get after running 15 kilometers is nice yet not everyone does it.
So why do we cheat? I think the best answer or more like THE answer for the question was given to me by a dear friend of mine. Thanks dear for clearing things up for me.
It’s the triangle theory. The three corners and the center. Each corner has a vertex; a point of attraction.
One Corner you have physical attraction. The way your partner looks body wise and how they satisfy you physically.
Second is the emotional corner. The emotional attraction and support your partner has and can give you.
Third, is the intellectual corner. The way your partner intrigues your mind. How they make you think. How they understand you.
In the center of the triangle is the spiritual core.
For a person not to cheat, all three corners must be met in order for a person to remain satisfied in a relationship. Why? Well, simple.
If your partner attracts you physically, emotionally but not intellectually then you will cheat. Someone will come along and say something that makes your mind click and hence you’ll cheat.
If your partner gives you what you want emotionally and intellectually but not physically then you will cheat with whoever satisfies you physically.
If you get the physical corner and the intellectually corner but no emotional support, guess what? You’re gonna cheat. With who? With the one who shoulders you when you need them.
Sadly, most people are a bit narrow minded. All they look at and want is what the eyes see which is the physical corner. This is why relationships don’t last long. That corner fades with time.
If they do, they’re usually dragged on for reasons such as “O for the benefit of the kids” or pressure from society. Society doesn’t look well towards people that are divorced.
The physical corner is important. Yet it fades with time. Where the other corners become stronger. So it’s not a good idea to base the whole relationship on physical attraction.
Your partner’s shape and body will age with time and I think this is the main reason that most men will marry another young woman when they hit mid forties. This corner is only temporary and should be viewed the same.
All these corners are meant to elevate the triangle’s center. The spirit, and in turn help the persons partner elevate their spirit.
People don’t necessarily cheat physically. You might just go to that someone and get what you need. Like emotional support.
So what’s the solution? All three Corners should be taken under consideration when selecting a partner. This will ensure that no matter where you are in the triangle, there will always be something that pulls you in.
If you are already in a relationship and you find yourself wanting to cheat or have already cheated, it’s not too late. There are solutions. You can salvage the relationship but only if you want to. If one corner is met, then there is some attraction between the two.
If both parties identify what they lack and are willingly to work things out, then there might a chance. You might be able to educate your partner on what you want from each corner. Tell them where they lack. If things don’t work out then at least you tired.
I don’t believe that people should drag on a relationship for years no matter what the reason is. The longer they do, the less options they will have and the more time they’ll be wasting starting a new relationship.
Reasons such as kids, society and so on should be considered as leverage to salvage the relationship and not be used as an excuse to drag it through the gutter.
Satisfy all three Corners and you have no reason to step out of a relationship.
I think this is THE explanation as to why people cheat. They miss something and find it in someone else so they feel a connection with that someone.
Thanks for your words of wisdom dearest. I think people will start to see things differently.
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